Get to Know Your Hidden Self

If you want to get to the bottom of some of the most difficult problems that repeat in your life and transform them, it's helpful to understand your superconscious and unconscious archetypes. Your superconscious and unconscious archetypes are not as prominent as your conscious and subconscious archetypes. In a sense, they are your hidden self. But they exert a lot of influence in your life.

Inside each of us is a seeker, aspiring to something better, hoping it will come. The idea of perfection we aspire to is colored by our superconscious archetype, the inner family archetype that rules our superconscious mind. Discerning our superconscious archetype helps us understand what is most important to us and what we long for most as we strive to accomplish our mission in life.

To a certain extent, our deepest constructive desires lodged in the superconscious can be offset by unconscious tendencies. The unconscious is a place sealed from our outer awareness. It houses our rejected self, the part of self that we refuse to own and project out onto others. Because we naturally don't want to take accountability for our unconscious archetype, it keeps coming back to trip us up in situations we encounter over and over again.

Last issue, we described the four inner family archetypes. Let's review their attributes. This will be helpful in determining your superconscious and unconscious archetypes.

Loving Father is the archetype that protects, directs, disciplines and gives conditional love. He helps us become impersonal to the things that we would normally react to in a negative way. He makes sure we are true to our word and finish what we start. He represents the law of cause and effect. Unloving Father criticizes us and everyone else.

Loving Mother nurtures teaches, guides, explains and gives us unconditional love. She always backs Loving Father's rules with explanation, and his conditional love with unconditional love. When she is unloving, she is abandoning and goes aloof or spoils us by giving us things instead of herself (smother-mother.)

Loved Boychild is the adventurer in us. He is charming, brave, competitive in a healthy way, and likes to be champion. Unloved Boychild is aggressive, overcompetitive and will lie, cheat, backbite or steal to get what he wants. He always has to have the last word.

Loved Girlchild is the mystical side of our nature. She is innocent, pure, gentle, caring, forgiving and creative. She loves beauty and does things with finesse. She is not constrained by time and space. She can contact the transcendental. Unloved Girlchild is the wounded victim-martyr consciousness, whiney and resentful.

To determine your superconscious archetype, look at the qualities you aspire to. Some people mistake their superconscious archetype for their conscious archetype because it's who they most aspire to be. Your superconscious archetype also describes how you see God. And it's how you put your best foot forward. Even though, the superconscious archetype is always loving, we can project our own sense of limitation and negativity onto it.

Do you pursue righteousness? Do you aspire to bring forth principle, justice, and fair play into your day-to-day interactions? Do you always want to know where everything stands? Do you sometimes feel that laws and rules are arbitrary and go against you, or that God is criticizing you and that the universe is very harsh and unfair? If so, Father may be your superconscious archetype.

Are you looking for unconditional love from God and from others? Do you strive to guide and nurture others by teaching the "who, what, where, when and why" of things. Do you sometimes find that it's easier to love humanity than people one-on-one? Does the universe seem to withhold its nurturance and abundance from you when you're having a rough time? You could have a superconscious Mother archetype.

Do you aspire to be a hero and to champion causes? Do you believe you have a destiny to carry out? Can you become fanatical about it? Do you relate to God as the son, who is there for you in a personal way? You may have a superconscious Boychild.

Do you aspire to beauty and finesse? Do you want God to manifest as the Holy Spirit, the Tao in your life? Do you sometimes like to suffer for the sake of suffering? Are you vulnerable to charlatans? Then, you may have a superconscious Girlchild.

Now, juxtapose your superconscious archetype to which you aspire with your unconscious archetype—the one you reject and project onto others.

Are you someone who can't stand being criticized and controlled, and yet tend to do this to others? Do you often compare yourself to others to see whether life is fair? Do you find it hard to belong, to integrate into a system and do you tend to draw criticism from authority figures? Then you may have Father in the unconscious.

Do other people abandon you? Do you dislike people who are aloof and yet continuously run into them? Do you give up on yourself or on others in the worst moment? You may have unconscious Mother.

Do you crave to inspire astonishment and admiration? Are you someone who can't stand competition and combativeness, but continuously magnetizes aggressive, arrogant behavior from others? You may have unconscious Boychild.

Are you extremely competent and when something goes awry, tend to blame somebody else? Are you easily irritated by people who "whine," especially when they say you wronged them? You may have unconscious Girlchild.

In a sense, you can look at your unconscious archetype as your hidden weakness you're your superconscious archetype as your hidden strength. Once you can see the challenge your unconscious archetype presents to you, you can draw upon your superconscious archetype for a solution. One of the best ways to access your superconscious is by giving positive affirmations. Positive affirmations can also help you develop all four loving archetypes, regardless of where you have them.

Remember, your inner family archetypes are like a toolbox. You can draw upon the best archetype for every situation and person you come in contact with. This makes you more competent. It will dramatically transform how you come across to others and how they will relate to you.

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