The Crusaders/Boy-Girl Pattern
(Conscious Boychild, Subconscious Girlchild)
Passion is what drives people
who have a conscious Boychild and subconscious Girlchild pattern of
behavior. Boy-Girls are crusaders. They are very energetic and extremely
creative. They can work miracles. They can sell ice cubes to Eskimos.
They are good writers and storytellers and have a wonderful stage
presence about them. With their double-child drama, sensitivity, charm
and sense of humor, they can access a gamut of emotions to make their
audience laugh, cry or rally together. Many Hollywood actors seem
to have this pattern. Under their dynamic, creative, adventurous,
gutsy and charming Boychild presence lies a soft spot, their Girlchild’s
care and sensitivity.
Boy-Girls also have an ongoing desire to rescue seemingly lost causes.
This is the shepherd mechanism. Their greatest love is to take something
in an underdog position and raise it up, be it a person or a cause.
Boy-Girls are extremely motivated and earnest. Even though most Boy-Girls
want to be in charge, they will easily give their authority and leadership
to another, so long as the person in charge stays in line. But if
their leader abuses power in any way, it becomes very difficult to
keep their support.
Boy-Girls will work day and night for you as long as you treat them
right and as long as they feel the cause you are working for is righteous.
When they are on your team and functioning at their best, they will
do a good job every time. Their loyalty and dedication can really
pull things off. The challenge they bring to others is that they tend
to behave in an all-or-nothing way and want things done yesterday.
They become easily bored and need continuous stimulation to keep their
attention focused and their interest from fading.
Boy-Girls live to bring their realizations into the world. They can
be fiery preachers and evangelists. They can also make people uncomfortable
because they are like a wild card that cannot be controlled. With
their double child energy, they lack a certain adult composure and
can become untethered like a helium balloon. As a result, many people
criticize them as unstable and they, in turn, tend to criticize themselves.
Relationships with Boy-Girls can be wonderful, but when they go sour,
things can get very ugly. When this happens, it is best not to take
the situation personally and understand that the china of Boy-Girls’
sensitivity was knocked over, setting off an alarm. Even if the Boy-Girls
were not personally offended, someone or something they were in support
of was, which detonated their subconscious Girlchild victim pattern.
Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat sleeve. You never have
to ask them, “Gee, how are you feeling today?” because
it is obvious. They often succumb to an aggressive victim pattern.
Girlchild gets hurt or upset about something: “You did this
to me!” And Boychild becomes aggressive to rectify the situation.
Any time Girlchild feels victimized, Boychild believes he has every
right to control others through whatever aggressive tactic that is
necessary.
When Boy-Girls are not hurt by someone externally, they tend to persecute
themselves. Like a painter who gets lost in his canvas, Boy-Girls
tend to get lost in the moment. A moment, for them, turns into eternity.
When the moment is beautiful, they are transported and enthralled.
When life disappoints them, they become lead-heavy and toxic.
The minute we tell Boy-Girls how to transcend their negative pattern,
they tend to get very excited and want to heroically do it right away.
It is important for Boy-Girls to know that we are there for them,
that we hear what they are saying and that we are not denying them
or what they are saying. Otherwise, we may break their trust and,
once that trust is broken, it is very difficult to get back. To keep
their trust, we must always go the extra mile and let them know what
we are about and what our intentions are.
~Boy-Girls are very energetic and extremely creative.
~They are always looking to help the underdog
and love crusades.
~Their loyalty and dedication pulls things off,
but they tend to be all-or-nothing and want everything done right
away.
~They are not easily controlled. Others may
put them down as being unstable, while still making use of their talents.
~Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat
sleeve and sometimes succumb to an aggressive victim pattern.
~They tend to dwell in the moment.
Famous Boy-Girls
Actor Mel Gibson
Actress Drew Barrymore
Actor Keanu Reeves
Television personality Oprah Winfrey
Evangelist Aimee Semple McPherson
Lucille Ball in the television show, I Love Lucy
Actor Tom Cruise
Actress Julia Roberts
Political activist Sarah Palin
Television personality Frasier
Singer Susan Boyle
Princess Diana
Political commentator Glenn Beck
The Boy-Girl pattern is described in greater
detail in our book, The
Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine
Self-Awareness.
Read about the other patterns.
~The
Achievers (Conscious Boychild, subconscious Mother)
~The
Stoics (Conscious Boychild, subconscious Father)
~The
Analysts (Conscious Mother, subconscious Boychild)
~The
Nurturers (Conscious Mother, subconscious Girlchild)
~The
Creators (Conscious Girlchild, subconscious Boychild)
~The
Inspirers (Conscious Girlchild, subconscious Mother)
~The
Overcomers (Conscious Girlchild, subconscious Father)
Disclaimer: The archetypal assessments
of celebrities included here are based on their public—not their
private—life. They illustrate an archetypal pattern of behavior
and are not intended to limit anyone.
© 2010 Sirius Consulting
