The Creators/Girl-Boy
Pattern
(Conscious Girlchild, Subconscious Boychild)
The conscious Girlchild, subconscious
Boychild pattern is extremely creative and leads people towards non-linear,
artistic occupations. Girl-Boys tend to be the ones who lay the golden
eggs in any organization. Their double-child archetypal charm gives
them a powerful stage presence. They can make people believe in them
and relate to them on a personal level. They are wonderful front-line
people. They love to interface with the public, and they have a nice
soft touch and comfortable presence. Having conscious Girlchild makes
them open, available and sensitive to other people's needs.
Girl-Boys are complex in that they can take people by surprise. Girlchild
at the conscious level is extraordinarily sensitive and caring. She
is demure, she has a melodic voice and she would not say “boo”
to a goose. Yet behind her Little Red Riding Hood hides a big bad
wolf—subconscious Boychild aggression. The hidden toughness
of Boychild behind Girlchild’s carefree, sensitive and sometimes
naïve front takes people by surprise. People are drawn to Girl-Boys'
fragile charm and are also impressed by their no-nonsense response
to challenging situations that surfaces when least expected.
People who have subconscious Boychild do not look like the fighting
type. Some think they are dealing with “Hello, kitty”
but find out they really have a tiger by the tail. Behind their easygoing
Girlchild front is an indefatigable Boychild who can outlast everyone.
Girl-Boys may look like they are a piece of cake but if you give them
a bite, you will suffer long-term ramifications, because they are
as tough as nails inside. Girl-Boys usually cannot recognize that
they could have any intention to harm, and they are often able to
convince others of their harmlessness. Nevertheless, they can become
formidable foes when you step on their conscious Girlchild’s
toes.
Even when their aggressive victim pattern is obvious to others, they
themselves are usually unaware of just how much aggression they release.
It is also difficult for them to take responsibility for their subconscious
excessive drive for control. When they are confronted, they use Girlchild
as a front. “How can you say I’m over-controlling when
I am such an easygoing, accommodating person?” they exclaim.
Then they become offended. They do not see that deep inside them lies
a Boychild counter-punch to the aggressive treatment they may have
received as children.
When Girl-Boys are upset, they can fill a room with the negativity
churning from their subconscious and not even notice. To release their
creativity within the confines of a structure, Girl-Boys need direction
and guidelines that do not stifle them. Otherwise, all of their creativity
will be lost as they balk against what corrals them and activates
their victim pattern.
We need to approach Girl-Boys with the understanding. Their subconscious
Boychild needs to know we have no intention to harm, so he can relax
while we talk to Girlchild. As long as subconscious Boychild does
not pick up any will to harm, Girlchild will shower us with love,
because she ever so much wants to be the joy, the light and the pink
in every room.
Girl-Boys long for a sense of connection with others, but first, they
must learn to forgive those who have hurt them in the past. This can
be tough, especially in the face of those who do not understand their
injury and want them to get over it immediately. Girl-Boys must learn
to say, “I am no longer the victim, and therefore, my power
no longer resides in you.” It is their key to personal overcoming.
They must also be willing to acknowledge when subconscious Boychild
is misbehaving. If they do not, they will appear hypocritical to others,
who will detect Boychild’s plots under Girlchild’s projection
of innocence, easygoingness and goodwill.
Girl-Boys find no difficulty
tuning into their muse—the source of their creative power and
divine inspiration. Their intuition is astonishing, and they are usually
right on the money. When they are loved and accepted, Girl-Boys show
us time and time again that they often know more than they even know
they know.
~Girl-Boys are extremely creative,
artistic and intuitive.
~They want to be the joy, the pink, the comfort in every room.
~They appear to be easygoing and accommodating
but can become aggressive in a pinch.
~They need direction and guidelines that do
not stifle them.
~They often receive criticism and abandonment
from those who do not appreciate their gifts.
Famous Girl-Boys
Elijah Wood, playing Frodo in Lord
of the Rings
Actress Meg Ryan
Actress Cameron Diaz
Actress and singer Julie Andrews
Russian dancer Mikhail Baryshnikov
Folk singer June Carter
The Girl-Boy pattern is described in greater detail in our book,
The
Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine
Self-Awareness.
Read about the other patterns.
~The
Achievers (Conscious Boychild, subconscious Mother)
~The
Crusaders (Conscious Boychild, subconscious Girlchild)
~The
Stoics (Conscious Boychild, subconscious Father)
~The
Analysts (Conscious Mother, subconscious Boychild)
~The
Nurturers (Conscious Mother, subconscious Girlchild)
~The
Inspirers (Conscious Girlchild, subconscious Mother)
~The
Overcomers (Conscious Girlchild, subconscious Father)
